This post came about when i got thinking about how i interact with other human beings on a social level. I have never seen the most social of creatures. In fact, i am happier being on my own and not getting any attention than being front and centre of attention. I have never had that ‘look at me’ gene. As a result, i have been called some rather hurtful things in the past. Some of which include a snob, antisocial, she think she’s better than everyone else, among others. These taunts used to hurt me in the past and coming from a loud and boisterous family, it made me very self conscious. It is not that i didn’t want to be involved and socialising at events, it is just that i didn’t know how to. Even have the years go on, that socially awkward part of me still lives inside. On bad days, i feel crippled, not being able to speak out or join in with conversations because i just don’t know what to say and nerves have overcome me. My fail safe role at events became the helper. I would help set the table, serve the food and take care of others, simply because it gave me something to do.
I did some googling and came across this great article about signs that you are an introvert, so i thought i would put myself to the test:
You enjoy having time to yourself.
Yes, yes, a resounding yes. In fact i crave it when i don’t get time to myself. I love having my own space and i don’t mind doing things like going to the movies or eating out by myself. It is sometimes something i need to do to recharge. My life is so busy ALL the time so i treasure my moments when i am on my own doing my own thing.
Your best thinking occurs when you’re by yourself.
Thinking is best done alone and i am one of those who comes up with the best ideas in the shower, on the drive home or simply focusing on a task on my own where i have time to think. I brainstorm best when i am left to it, rather than it being forced out of me in a group.
You lead best when others are self-starters.
Leading a team is something that i do best. I like the responsibility of being able to lead a team and get the best out of people and that is a sign of a true introvert. I am able to observe behaviours easily and can incorporate people into the group who are reluctant to participate.
You’re the last to raise your hand when someone asks for something from a group.
This is not strictly true of me, as i do like to volunteer and take part first.
Other people ask you your opinion.
More often than not, this is the case for me. People do often confide in me and ask for my advice when they need it.
You often wear headphones when you’re in a public situation.
I often do this on public transport, but then again who doesn’t in London.
You prefer not to engage with people who seem angry or upset.
This is true, i don’t like to jump into confrontational situations or be the one initiating it either. I am more likely to hear someone out who is having a rant before actually speaking to them about the issue that they have and help them to resolve it.
You receive more calls, texts, and emails than you make, unless you have no choice.
So true. I write better than i speak when it comes to resolving personal situations. Writing things down helps me to think and that is why i am more likely to communicate using my phone!
You don’t initiate small talk with salespeople or others with whom you have casual contact.
This is something that i have learnt to grow out of. It is easy to assume that people are unfriendly when they don’t initiate conversation with you. I have learnt to force myself to say hello and introduce myself first no matter the situation.
I hope you enjoyed this insight into becoming an introvert. If you are an introvert, why not tell me about it in my comments below? Don’t forget to give this post a like or my blog a follow if you enjoyed this post,